Sunday
Oct262008
Do people have a responsibility to breed?
Sunday, October 26, 2008 at 1:35AM
Last night I was out with some friends. I mentioned something to the effect of "I'm not planning on having any kids any time soon, maybe not ever, I dunno." My friend looked at me and said "no, you have to have children, because they are going to have children" and motioned towards a rather sketchy couple in the corner.
by ♥mrsapplegate
Then tonight as I was leaving my parents house my mom stopped me, and out of the blue she said "remember, I want biological grandchildren before my teeth fall out". In addition to being a surprising comment, it kinda made me feel guilty as I pulled away in my car. In the space of about 24 hours two people had half-jokingly inferred that I have a responsibility to breed, though for different reasons.
by Thomas Hawk
The thing is, at the moment children are the furthest thing from my mind. I'm doing my whatever I want, and my plans for going back to school, working long hours, and traveling do not line up well with procreation. In addition, I don't see anything appealing about having to live with a smaller, more destructive, and emotionally draining version of a human right now.
by steve.wilson
It's not that I dislike children, kids are fun sometimes, and I'm great with them. I just wouldn't want them around all the time right now, or at any foreseeable point in the future. I'm only 26 and this isn't the 1800's, I don't need to be makin' babies ASAP in order to get help in tilling the fields or supporting the family. With advances in medical technology I could put off having kids for another 20 years without difficulty. There is no rush.
Maybe at some point I'll change my mind. Maybe I'll suddenly feel that it's my intellectual responsibility to have intelligent children to balance out all stupid ones. Maybe my mother will start replacing my girlfriends birth control with baby aspirin. Or maybe I'll just decide that I want to hear the pitter-patter of my own spawn scampering around. I don't know.
by clappstar
But right now I'm not going to worry about it. Right now I'm going to keep on focusing on making myself happy rather than worrying about my mom's desire to shop at Baby Gap or improving the gene pool.
by christy and jun
by ♥mrsapplegate
Then tonight as I was leaving my parents house my mom stopped me, and out of the blue she said "remember, I want biological grandchildren before my teeth fall out". In addition to being a surprising comment, it kinda made me feel guilty as I pulled away in my car. In the space of about 24 hours two people had half-jokingly inferred that I have a responsibility to breed, though for different reasons.
by Thomas Hawk
The thing is, at the moment children are the furthest thing from my mind. I'm doing my whatever I want, and my plans for going back to school, working long hours, and traveling do not line up well with procreation. In addition, I don't see anything appealing about having to live with a smaller, more destructive, and emotionally draining version of a human right now.
by steve.wilson
It's not that I dislike children, kids are fun sometimes, and I'm great with them. I just wouldn't want them around all the time right now, or at any foreseeable point in the future. I'm only 26 and this isn't the 1800's, I don't need to be makin' babies ASAP in order to get help in tilling the fields or supporting the family. With advances in medical technology I could put off having kids for another 20 years without difficulty. There is no rush.
Maybe at some point I'll change my mind. Maybe I'll suddenly feel that it's my intellectual responsibility to have intelligent children to balance out all stupid ones. Maybe my mother will start replacing my girlfriends birth control with baby aspirin. Or maybe I'll just decide that I want to hear the pitter-patter of my own spawn scampering around. I don't know.
by clappstar
But right now I'm not going to worry about it. Right now I'm going to keep on focusing on making myself happy rather than worrying about my mom's desire to shop at Baby Gap or improving the gene pool.
by christy and jun
Reader Comments (4)
Are you mixing up your inferring and implying once again?
Ahhh I don't care, I just want Indian foods.
So I'll just go lock my b.c. in a safety deposit box. *gulp*
Kind of shocked your mother would say that to you, so bluntly. Granted, I don't know your mother very well but I just can't imagine MY mother EVER saying anything like that to me. So it's shocking to me.
Anyway, I'm having kids at 33. If I have them. That is the magic year. It was decided ages ago.
...Also to further Steph's comment, you really should get someone (i.e. me) to proofread your entries before you post. The spelling and grammatical errors - they hurt the eyes! I know how much you value your intellect; don't let people think you're dumb.
Very well said.
Yeah, my grammar and spelling leave a little to be desired. I'm definitely going to get any university application letters proofread by a couple people in order to ensure I don't embarrass myself.